I realize that I’m late posting a New Year post….I hope you can forgive me.
I have decided that 2017 is the year that I’m not going to let stress or should-ofs, would-ofs, or could-ofs hold power over me and how I think or feel about myself or my life.
I am not making resolutions or goals that have anything to do with what “I don’t want to…”, or “I’m not….”, or that are in any way a restriction or way to make myself smaller in the world.
Instead….I’m only making goals for this year that allow for more freedom (mentally, emotionally, and physically).
My Theme for 2017 is “Let it Go”
Let Go of stress
Let Go of all the things out of my control, that I want to control
My active exercise:
- Recognize – when I’m having negative or stressful thoughts
- Stop – myself mid-thought
- Analyze – if the thoughts are about the things I can’t really control or do anything about (which they usually are)
- Let it Go – actively tell myself to “Let it Go!” (insert a deep belly breath)
- Move On – to a new thought
It has only been about a week, but so far this exercise is working quite well.
I have written about stress before here and here, but stress is our reaction to our perceptions about a given situation. While some stress is probably inevitable, some of it doesn’t have to be….I can make a choice to Let it Go.
I believe there is freedom in Letting Go.
My hope is that by practicing this exercise and Letting Go of all the things and not allowing the unknown to stress me out….that I will be able to be more present in there here-and-now.
I have always been the type of person who is goal oriented and results driven; it is what propels me forward every day and in my life. I think having specific and attainable goals is important; I’ve said for years that “if you don’t know where you are going, then you will not know how to get there”. I do think that we must leave room for error, movement, bending, and flexibility in our resolutions – allowing them to evolve as we do and as our life does throughout time.
Do not allow your resolutions or goals hold more power than they actually do and dictate how you feel or what you believe about yourself and your life. Allow them to be fluid rather than the end all be all.
I wish to you all a healthy and happy 2017!