Recipe: Main Dish – Meat Lasagna


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I made this for dinner this past Saturday night and it was a big hit! It does take time to make, so only make this when you have plenty of time.

We were planning to eat dinner around 7:30p and I started cooking at 5:30p. I placed it in the oven around 6:30-ish and we ate around 7:30-ish.

Recipe: Main Dish – Meat Lasagna


  • Chopping Board
  • Knife
  • Large/Deep Pan
  • Spatula
  • Large Plate
  • Medium Size Bowl
  • 2 Big Spoons
  • Lots of Paper Towels
  • Trash Can
  • Pot
  • Slotted Spoon
  • Colander
  • 9×13 baking dish

Sauce Ingredients:

  • Butter
  • Small or ½ Large Yellow or White Onion
  • 1 Organic Green Bell Pepper
  • Sliced Mushrooms (optional – my family doesn’t like them so I don’t use them)
  • 1 lb of Grass-fed Ground Beef or 1 lb of ground pork Italian sausage (or half and half of each)
  • 1 Tbs Fresh Minced Garlic
  • 1 15oz Can Petite Diced Tomatoes – Drained
  • 1 32oz Jar of Marinara Sauce
  • 1/4 – 1/2 tsp Dark Brown Sugar
  • 1/8 Lemon

Cheese Mixture Ingredients:

  • 16oz – 20oz of Whole Milk Ricotta Cheese
  • 1 8oz Pkg of Softened Cream Cheese
  • 1 – 2 tsp of homemade or jar Basil Pesto
  • ¼ Cup of Parmesan Cheese


  • Lasagna Noodles
  • Shredded Cheese of Choice (Mozzarella or Italian Cheese Blend)
  • Salt
  • Black Pepper
  • Powered Garlic
  • Italian Seasoning
  • Pinch Red Pepper Flakes


Place 16 – 20 oz of ricotta cheese on a large place and press it flat. Cover with paper towels, as the paper towels get wet, remove and replace. I went through a lot of paper towels, but drawing the moisture out of the ricotta will prevent the lasagna from being watery. I did this process for approximately 1 hour prior to layering. Alternatively, you could use a cheese cloth and squeeze the moisture out of the cheese.

Chop onion and green bell pepper in small equal size pieces. Place onion in hot pan with butter to brown over a medium-high heat. Add salt, pepper, and garlic powder. When onions are brown add green bell pepper, add more salt, pepper, and garlic powder. Continue to sauté over a medium-heat until brown. At this time, add the mushrooms if you show choose (add butter, and more seasonings as before). The key is to add seasonings to each layer of ingredients.


Add the ground meat, salt, pepper, a pinch of red pepper flakes, and 1 Tbs of fresh minced garlic. Continue to cook over a medium-heat until meat is browned.

Add the drained can of tomatoes, salt, pepper, and stir – then cook over a medium-heat the rest of the liquid out of them. Then add the jar of marinara sauce, salt, Italian seasoning, and stir – cook to reduce/thicken on a low-medium heat until the rest of the components are ready to layer.

Pre-heat oven to 375°.

Bring a pot of water with salt to a boil. Add noodles, stir and cook according to package instructions.


While cooking noodles, mix your Ricotta cheese, cream cheese, basil pesto, and parmesan cheese together in a bowl and set aside.

Once noodles are done, drain and rinse with cold water, and return to a pot of cold water (this will keep them from sticking together and getting gummy). Pat noodles dry just before layering. I placed paper towels out on my counter top, put 3 noodles down, and placed paper towels on top to pat dry.

Turn off the stove under the sauce.

Line up your 9×13 pan, sauce, cheese mixture, noodles, and paper towels on the counter for easy access.

Time to build…..

  • Add a thin layer of meat sauce to bottom of pan
  • Dry and layer 3 noodles (length wise in pan)
  • Add more meat sauce
  • Generous layer of shredded cheese
  • Dry and layer 3 noodles (length wise in pan)
  • Add entire cheese blend mixture
  • Add more shredded cheese
  • Dry and layer 3 noodles (length wise in pan)
  • Add the remainder of the meat sauce

Cover with foil and puncture small vent holes with a knife. Bake for 30 minutes.


Remove from oven and remove the foil. Add a liberal amount of shredded cheese of choice and bake for another 20 minutes. Remove from oven and let sit for 10 minutes.


Done. Eat. Enjoy.

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Are you applying a band-aid to a mortal wound?


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For many years, I would experience a symptom and find a supplement or medication for it. Don’t get me wrong, supplements and medications have their place and are very important.

But, you don’t want to put band-aids on mortal wounds….you’ll die. The band-aids helped me get by, but didn’t stop the bleeding.

You have to fix the big stuff before the little stuff will really have an impact. I mean who cares if there is dirt in the wound if there is a big piece of metal sticking out of it?!? You have to remove the metal projectile and then clean the dirt out….

The BIG stuff….

1. Food and Beverage Quality

You’re going to get out of your body what you put into your body. I type and say the word “quality” everyday to someone; it matters! What you put into your body is either taking you one-step closer to health or one step closer to disease.

If you would like more information about this subject please read Eat the Yolks (Audible version is $1.99). I have a post called Quality Food Sources you can check out for some quality resources.

2. Sleep Quality (and Quantity)

Your body heals when it sleeps, it cleans when it sleeps, and it rebuilds when it sleeps. If you have poor quality sleep, the wheels will fall off the wagon. Your body cannot heal and restore health unless you are getting enough good quality sleep.

A few tips for better sleep: 1) Reduce or Remove Screen Time after sundown (use flux or Apple’s “night shift” function on phones/tablets, and blue-blocking glasses), the blue light prevents melatonin production; 2) Reduce your home temperature around 70 degrees, 3) White Noise, I use fans and earplugs, but you can also use APs like SleepStream; 4) Super Dark Room, mostly the artificial light is the issue….light from devises, smoke detectors, yard lights etc., if you cannot block all the light out, use a sleep-mask, 5) If you can take an evening walk around sundown that is a great way to wind down for the night; 6) Supplements or Herbal Assistance – Doc Parsley’s Sleep Remedy (if you use this you don’t need these others), Epsom salt bath, EASE Magnesium on the bottom of feet, and to help your body produce its own melatonin use Cedarwood Essential Oil

3. Stress Management 

This subject is very touchy for me. I’ve shared some on stress here.

Stress itself is not a disease, but it will kill you!  I think that “mind-set” falls under this category.

There is physical stress like an internal infection or exercise and there is mental stress which is everything else…..mental stress is about your perception. The trick is learning to change your mind-set about how you perceive the things that typically stress you out.

When I get stressed out, taking a walk really helps me (inside, outside). Taking at least one walk a day helps me to prevent getting stressed as well. Using the Calm AP is helpful which has guided meditations, relaxing sounds, and more. Self-care is fantastic at preventing stress and helping reduce existing stress (schedule a massage, a mani/pedi, get out in nature (go fishing), play with pets, take a nice long bath, read, take a nap, spend time with light-hearted friends, whatever will help you relax and decompress.) I also love Stress Away Essential Oil; it smells sooooo good.

4. Smart Exercise / Movement

When it comes to exercise there are so many people who take it to such extremes and I’m not sure they even realize it.

Be specific in the goals you want to achieve; you won’t know how to get there if you don’t know where you are going. Measure your movement; use a tracker, count your steps and your stairs each day. Keep yourself to a pre-set measurable amount of time for exercise each week. Stay within the parameters you set so you don’t overdo it. Be realistic in the amount of exercise is really needed to effectively achieve your goals. Don’t do anything over what is necessary. Allow time for warm-ups, cool-downs, rest, and recovery.

Choose challenging and relevant movement and exercise to achieve your goals. For example, if you want to be able to do pull-ups do exercises to strengthen the muscles needed to achieve a pull-up.

Find the balance between achieving your fitness and health goals and all the fun stuff in life, like sleeping, eating, and hanging out with friends and family.

Recommended Exercise

Walk every day as much as possible

  • 1 – 3 sessions of around 30 minutes of challenging weight lifting per week
  • 1 – 2 sessions of 5 – 10 minutes of sprints each week
  • At least 1 – 2 sessions of 10 – 20 minutes of mobility work and stretching (Look into Becoming a Supple Leopard.)

All of the above is less than 3 hours a week of exercise time that will help keep your body healthy and mobile.

Start your health journey with what you can control – you can control these 4 things.

Once the big metal projectile is out of the wound you can clean the dirt out and really start healing.

Introducing: Nutreince

I am super excited to introduce to you Nutreince by: Calton Nutrition.

Nutreince is a multivitamin unlike any other!


The Calton’s designed this multivitamin for maximum absorption. They have used a patented Anti-Competition Technology, which means the eliminates “over 45 absorption and health-blocking micronutrient competitions while providing more than 85 absorption and health-enhancing micronutrient synergies to greatly increase the benefits and utilization of many of the essential micronutrients found in nutreince”.

They also went to the trouble to make sure that the forms of the nutrients in the product are the active, complete, safe, and bio-available forms, so your body can actually use it. Nutreience is in a two mini-packet per-day powder that you add to water and drink. It should be taken within 20-30 minutes of a meal, one packet in the morning and one in the evening. It is 98% absorbable and supplies your body with 100% of the daily value of 20 vitamins and minerals.


Take the Micronutrient Sufficiency Quiz to see what nutrients you are deficient in.

Nutreince is great for children over the age of 4 or 54 pounds and it tastes delicious so they will love it! You can cut the dose in half for smaller children. It is also a fantastic source for 5-MTHF and folate (not folic acid) for pregnant women; not to mention it will not cause an upset stomach.

For more information and questions go here  and click on Nutreince and then click through the information tabs mid-way down the page; particularly the Q&A tab.

You can get a sample pack here to taste the different flavors. samplepackIf you only pick one vitamin to take, Nutreince is the one you should pick!

all3booksI also highly recommend the Calton’s books – click here to buy:

  1. Naked Calories “reveals the naked truth about what you are eating and how your lifestyle habits may unknowingly be sabotaging your health”;
  2. Rich Food Poor Food “Grocery Purchasing System (GPS), is a unique guide that steers the consumer through the grocery store aisles, directing them to health enhancing Rich Food options while avoiding health detracting Poor Food ones”; and
  3. The Micronutrient Miracle “explains the truth about what you’re really eating and how your habits may be depleting essential micronutrients. It also provides an easy-to-follow 28-day plan to reverse these effects by restoring your depleted micronutrients”.


All Things Baby – Safe Body & Hair Products


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What we put on our skin and baby’s skin gets absorbed into the blood stream. Go simple, minimal, as few ingredients as possible. It is important to reduce your toxin load as much as possible and even more so during pregnancy and breastfeeding. Also, your baby’s toxin load. If you can control it….do….because you are getting so many toxins from the environment that you cannot control.

Generally speaking I do not recommend using products on babies or yourself that you can pick-up at a drug store or grocery store. There are some out there that you can get in stores that are safe, but I recommend the ones below specifically for expecting mothers and babies.

Safe Body and Hair Products

Innersence Organic Beauty

Primal Life Organics

Annmarie Gianni

Tasty Face Organics

Dragonfly Traditions

Beauty Counter

Mother Dirt

Top Ingredients to avoid in products:

  • Aluminum chloride hexahydrate: Found in antiperspirant; check for aluminum chloride hexahydrate and aluminium chlorohydrate
  • Benzoyl peroxide (used in acne products)
  • Beta hydroxy acids: Salicylic acid, 3-hydroxypropionic acid, trethocanic acid and tropic acid
  • Benzalkonium Chloride: cleansers, antibacterial
  • DEA (Diethanolamine (DEA): Found in hair and body products; stay clear of diethanolamine, oleamide DEA, lauramide DEA and cocamide DEA), MEA, and TEA (foam booster)
  • Dihydroxyacetone (DHA): Found in spray self-tanners; could be harmful if inhaled
  • Dioxin (doesn’t always appear on ingredients lists, but is commonly added to antibacterial products, ethoxylated cleansers, PEGsand emulsifiers)
  • DMDM hydantoin and urea (used as preservatives)
  • FD&C colors and pigments (made from coal tar)
  • Formaldehyde: Found in hair straightening treatments, nail polishes and eyelash glue; look for formaldehyde, quaternium-15, dimethyl-dimethyl (DMDM), hydantoin, imidazolidinyl urea, diazolidinyl urea, sodium hydroxymethylglycinate, and 2-bromo-2-nitropropane-1,3-diol (bromopol)
  • Hydroquinone: A lightening agent; abstain from hydroquinone, idrochinone and quinol/1-4 dihydroxy benzene/1-4 hydroxy benzene
  • Parabens (Keep away from ethyl, propyl, butyl, isopropyl, and methyl parabens; used as preservatives)
  • PEG or polyethylene glycol (are in most products)
  • Phthalates (found in many products, not usually labeled); (Found in products with synthetic fragrances and nail polishes; avoid diethyl and dibutyl especially)
  • Propylene glycol (PG) and butylene glycol (in many products)
  • Retinol: Vitamin A, retinoic acid, retinyl palmitate, retinaldehyde, adapalene, tretinoin, tazarotene and isotretinoin (Here are some retinol alternatives)
  • Sodium lauryl sulfate (SLS) and sodium laureth sulfate (SLES) (used as a foaming agent)
  • Sunscreen chemicals (Avobenzone, homosalate, octisalate, octocrylene, oxybenzone, oxtinoxate, menthyl anthranilate and oxtocrylene.)
  • Thioglycolic acid: Found in chemical hair removers; can also be labeled acetyl mercaptan, mercaptoacetate, mercaptoacetic acid and thiovanic acid
  • Toluene: Found in nail polishes; skip methylbenzene, toluol and antisal 1a
  • Triclosan (an antibacterial agent)

This is a good site to use to check the quality of the products you are using.

Wellness Mama  put out a post on essential oils and pregnancy.

Here is a post about Herbal Remedies In Pregnancymore specifically which ones to avoid.

Real Food Liz  mentioned she used the Mad Rash Baby Blam for irritated neck rolls. Here is the link to the BALM! Baby skin care line for baby and pregnancy.

Please also use clean water to shower and bathe in if you can. Particularly the water you bathe in if you can. Particularly the water you bathe your baby in.

I wish you all the healthiest of pregnancies and babies!

If you missed my first All Things Baby post….click here.

Buyer Beware: Do NOT use Natural Calm


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Recently, I have been hearing that Natural Vitality Natural Calm Magnesium has arsenic in it. For a long time I have used this product, others in my life, and this product has been recommended by many health gurus out there.

I have not had much time to research this, but you bet your shiny-hiney I don’t want to take any chances. I don’t want you to take any changes either!


At this time – I would like to recommend you NOT use Natural Calm for your magnesium needs.

Below are better options:

EASE Magnesium – this is my new favorite; it is not sticky and doesn’t cause skin sensations

Magnesium Glycinate

Epsoak Epsom Salt

Minear Dead Sea Salt

Side Note: Always, always read ingredient lists – some Epsom salts have “fragrance or parfum” listed as an ingredient. You don’t want that….we don’t know what that is or what that means. Since our skin is permeable, it is important that what we put on it and soak in is of the highest quality possible…..meaning, don’t soak in possible poison or toxins.

On that subject, please please get a shower filter – you absorb and inhale toxins and poisons from the water you shower in.

Here are two good and inexpensive options:

Berkey KDSF Shower Filter

QwenchPure – this is the one I currently use in my house

How-To: Boil Shrimp Perfectly!


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It is so quick and easy to boil shrimp perfectly, people mess it up!

Tools:  pot, strainer, slotted spoon, big bowl, ice

Ingredients: large wild-caught shrimp, lemon, creole seasoningapple cider vinegar

Optional Ingredients: Lager Beer



Put pot with water, whole squeezed lemon (put the whole thing in after squeezing), 1/8 to 1/4 cup of apple cider vinegar, 1/2 lager beer if you choose, and creole seasoning (the more you add the more flavor will infuse) in the water and bring to a boil

Put strainer in one side of your sink and large bowl with ice water in the other


Once water is boiling, add shrimp, give it a quick stir

Note: after shrimp are added the water may not boil again, don’t worry

Let cook for a couple of minutes and stir again – stir enough to make sure the shrimp aren’t sticking

It won’t’ take long…..

Once you see 1 or 2 of the shrimp float to the surface – immediately drain (to avoid overcooking) and then dump into the bowl of ice water (to stop the internal cooking process)


For a quick and easy dipping sauce: Mix ketchup and prepared horseradish, to taste.

Done! Eat! Enjoy!

How-To: Cook Scallops Perfectly!



It is so easy to cook scallops perfectly, people mess it up!

Tools:  paper towels, medium size pan, tongs, timer

Ingredients: large sea scallops, salt, pepper

Cooking Fat: butter or ghee or avocado oil or coconut oil

Optional Ingredients: white wine, lemon juice, shallots, garlic cloves



Rinse scallops with cold water

Dry scallops with paper towels (this allows them to sear)

Heat a dry pan nice and hot (medium-high heat), once the pan is almost smoking

Add cooking fat to pan, swirl around so the bottom of pan is coated

Add scallops, leave alone – do not move them, add salt and pepper, cook with a timer for 2 mins

Turn fire down to medium heat

Use tongs or spoon to flip them over, leave alone – do not move them, add salt and pepper, cook with a timer for 2 mins

IMPORTANT NOTE: Do not cook more than 2 mins per side, they will over cook and be big pieces of rubber. They should be seared on the outside, but slightly translucent on the inside.


Remove from pan and place on plate(s)

Should you choose – sauté shallots and or fresh garlic cloves, once brown, deglaze the pan with butter or ghee, white wine and lemon juice. Once reduced a little spoon over scallops; it shouldn’t take long since the pan is so hot. If you do not want shallots or garlic, just deglaze the pan and spoon over scallops.

Serve immediately.

Done! Eat! Enjoy!

Vegetarianism & Veganism


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I have recently found that acquaintances in my life are choosing to eat vegetarian or vegan. I really did not want to get into a conversation or debate with them about their choice. But, it got me asking myself why they are choosing this? One person did tell me it wasn’t because of moral views, so why then? Well, I decided to put some thoughts and information out there in hopes of expanding some horizons.


According to Google, Vegetarianism is defined as “a person who does not eat meat, and sometimes other animal products, especially for moral, religious, or health reasons”.

Also, according to Google, a Vegan is defined as “a person who does not eat or use animal products”.

Can You Be Healthy Long-Term?

Being a vegetarian or vegan and being healthy long-terms is not impossible, but it will likely be tough. I heard on a podcast not that long ago that was discussing vegetarianism and veganism and they were saying that it takes about 7 years for the long-term effects of missing nutrients and poor nutrient absorption to have a negative effect on their health.

Many folks who choose a vegetarian or veganism way of eating typically rely too heavily on grains, legumes, GMO foods, and highly-processed food-like products as the bulk of their diets. If you tolerate grains and legumes, it is ok to use them sparingly, however they are low in bio-available nutrients, they contain lectins and phytates, and can also contribute to intestinal permeability. It is helpful if you properly prepare them, soaking them overnight and allowing them to sprout before cooking them.  If you already have any intestinal permeability or inflammation they can wreak havoc. Generally speaking, these items also are not very nutrient dense, especially compared to other vegetable options. It is important to watch blood sugar issues with eating lots of grains and grain products.

Fruit is very yummy and do contain usable nutrients, but can cause increased issues with those with blood sugar problems and those who are fructose intolerant (avoid Agave). Eating some fruit is ok, but eating massive amounts of fruit all day isn’t a good idea.

A lot of folks also rely on soy products, which I say is a bad idea due to the estrogenic activity of soy. This is super important for men. Just say no to soy. Most soy is also GMO soy. If you choose to eat soy, I suggest you only eat traditionally fermented soy.

If the goal of either of these lifestyles is to be healthy, the main food items that need to be consumed is organic non-GMO vegetables, some fruit, and the use of supplements. Many vitamin and mineral deficiencies can occur over time from not eating animals and or animal products; for example: B12, iron, zinc, calcium, fat-soluble vitamins D and A, and other long-chain fatty acids like DHA and EPA.

Personal Opinion

I believe that having a plant-based diet is important. We should be eating a minimum of 2 – 3 cups of veggies with each meal. Eating a variety of foods is very important. Get them all and eat them all.

I also believe that the human body needs the bio-available nutrients that come from animal products (meats, organs, seafood, bi-products ie. Eggs, Bone BrothCollagen Protein, Honey, Butter or Ghee.

I do not think that you have to eat meat or animal products with every meal to gain the nutrients your body needs. If you focus on the most nutrient dense the less you have to eat of them, like cold-water fatty fish, liver, pastured egg yolks, pastured bison or beef.

I believe that there are good and ideal ways for people to eat animals and animal products that do not involve large-scale factory farming practices ie. feed-lots and other confined animal feeding operations, closed-in chicken farms, or GMO plants etc. Vote with your dollar!

In my post Quality Food SourcesI provide my thoughts on sourcing our foods from responsible places. Regardless if you eat meat or not, you should be sourcing your produce from locally grown sources, the closer to you they are grown the less nutrients are lost and the less gasoline is needed to transport it. You can source responsibly raised and butchered meats, bones, and organs. With a little online research you can find local farmers and ranchers that are doing things in an ethically responsible way. If you have local farmers markets that is also a good place to start, they are usually there. Ask questions.

Small Rant:

It is naive to think that because you are vegan or vegetarian that your food doesn’t cause animal death. It does. The farming practices kill hundreds and thousands of animals and animal habitats. Why is it ok to kill a field mouse, mole, rabbit, snake, insect or bird and not a cow, pig, or deer? Anyway, that is not really a question….

The Bible says in Genesis 9:3 “Every moving thing that lives shall be food for you. And as I gave you the green plants, I give you everything.” There is A LOT more details in in Deuteronomy 14:1-29 and in Leviticus 11:1-47. The Maker’s Diet has a bunch of details in it too.

Recommended Supplements:

Purepea by: Designs for Health

Calton Nutrition – Nutreince


Various Resources:

The Vegetarian Myth: Food, Justice, and Sustainability

The Omnivore’s Dilemma: A Natural History of Four Meals

Sustainable Living

Joel Salatin

Sustainable Farming

Naked Calories: The Calton’s Simple 3-step Plan to Micronutrient Sufficiency

Live Beyond Organic Change Your Diet. Change Your Life. Change Your World

10 Important Items To Include In A Plant-Based, Vegan or Vegetarian Diet

What Raw Vegans Can Teach Us About Paleo: 12 Lessons For Supercharged Living

Why Vegetarians and Vegans Should Supplement with DHA

Meat: It’s More than Protein

Nutrient Showdown: Best Sources of Vitamins & Minerals

The Illusion of Nutrient-Dense Food

10 Vegan Diet Dangers

I’m not vegan anymore

My Thoughts on Feminism


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Disclaimer: I was born and raised the United States. I have very little, if any, first hand understanding regarding the oppression of women in other countries. This post is my personal opinion from my perspective and experience only.


This post comes on the heels of me listening to a podcast from Coconuts & Kettlebells. I really enjoy these ladies, who they are, and all the topics they discuss. It really got me thinking….they made some very good points that changed my mindset around the word feminism.

Until this podcast, I generally have had a bad taste in my mouth with regards to feminism today.

Originally, feminism was about women acquiring equal political rights as men. Later it developed further into a woman’s right to work, earn wages to support her family, mostly out of necessity…because of World War II. Also, to gain control over her reproductive rights.

I do think that women working for the right to vote, to have a voice/to be heard was and is important. A woman’s right to work and not have children if she doesn’t want to…is important. And, the right to have a bank account and buy a house or car without a man’s endorsement attached to it. Feminism gave women freedoms and independence that we never had before. I am very grateful for the women who came before me that have allowed me to vote, work to support myself, and have an open opinion.

I also think that feminism has gotten out of hand in some regards. People always talk about feminism as the only option is that women have to work….break the glass ceiling and prove something to “the man’s world”. I think to a huge degree WWII and women moving into the workplace has had a tremendous negative effect on the family and home. The family loses a lot by the woman or mother working full-time. While I wouldn’t trade the rights that came to me through the course of historic events around feminism, we must also remember that women were designed to hold the family and home together.

Feminism has caused me grief over the years, I think about what my life may have looked like had I lived in a different generation. Would I be happier? What would it be like to only do the things that God innately built into me, instead of a constant fight to make my way through a “man’s world”?

Make no mistake….women have come a very long way in the U.S., but we aren’t there yet…it is STILL a man’s world. Companies like to talk about the glass ceiling, but let me tell you first hand that ceiling is there. Every large organization I’ve worked for has some sort of group that focuses on women’s development and promotion. If equality between men and women in the workforce wasn’t an issue anymore we wouldn’t need or have these groups. Their very existence proves there is still a major issue with equality in the workplace. Equality doesn’t exist in positions held or pay scale and other perks/benefits. Any woman who has “made it” to the top of the food chain in corporate America has done so, because she has worked 2 or 3 times harder than her male counterparts, because that is what is required of her to do to “make it” and keep it. That doesn’t sound very equal to me.

In the podcast, Stefani mentions how men interrupt women when they are talking all the time. Here is something else interesting on that subject. They also talked about the objectivity of women. I found this particularly interesting…I don’t think that we should be used for our bodies or treated as objects. However, women’s bodies are beautiful and I don’t know one woman that doesn’t like it when her man makes her feel desired in a primal objectified kind of way. There is power in beauty. We are powerful creatures and when we start believing that we are and acting like we are…a true revolution in feminism will occur. We have to stop giving our power away.

I am fortunate that I’ve been a strong and independent minded person since I was a very young child. My Dad taught me to work hard and gave me ethical standards. My Mom taught me to persevere, use my will, and wit to achieve my goals. She taught me that I was not less than anyone, including my male bosses….”I work with them…not for them”. Knowing my value as a person and knowing what value I can add to someone, team, or company has allowed me to stand my ground…fight for what I deserve and speak my mind when I do not think something is right.

Women are still discriminated against….there is no doubt about it. But, we are not victims. We are not required to be passive bystanders in our lives. We have to be the change we want to see. We have to act according to our convictions. We have to teach the other women around us. We have to not settle and not give our power away. We have to change our mind-sets about who we are in the world and what we are capable of before any real change can occur.

In this day in age, women are not free to be the women we were designed by God to be. The expectations that are laid on us is to not only be the nurturing, care-giving, family building creatures we are, but to also do all of that while working full-time jobs in a man’s world, and all that comes with too. At the end of the day, as much as we want to, as much as we try to, we cannot do it all – keep it all together all the time – it is physically impossible. If we did a random survey of women across the U.S. of working wives and moms, I would wager that they would tell you that their health and mental well-being is suffering and lackluster because they are trying to do it all. Where do we draw the line?

I drew the line, I had to, my health and mental well-being has suffered tremendously and frankly still is. I had to make a choice to not have children in lieu of working full-time (if children were in my cards, I wanted to stay home and raise them). I hired a housekeeper to help clean the house, because I’m not home more than I am home. I sometimes choose to not cook or do laundry when I know I “should” because I’m tired and my physical and mental health is more important at that time. There are always trade-offs in life. You cannot have it all. You have to choose.

So while the feminist movement has made some positive strides for the rights of women, it has also created a social standard for women that is unrealistic and is breaking down women’s health and our families.

More on: Candace’s Health Story (Part 2)


I have realized that on my health learning journey, while I learned a tremendous amount while going through things, it isn’t until much later that I got a real big-picture 30k view of my past health issues and how they are intertwined together with my current health struggles.

I would venture to guess that most people’s health issues are not caused by only one thing. Typically, as with me, my health issues are that of a perfect storm.

I want to roll my own eyes at saying this….but STRESS. This topic is a big one all over the internet. Most of the time when I read or skim through an article on stress, I read through it and roll my eyes. Yes, we all know that stress is bad for us. Yes, we all know we are supposed to “manage stress”. But….realistically how, really….how?? There are overt clear stressors in our lives: a job we don’t like, being around family we don’t like, driving in traffic, the loss of a loved one, a new baby, loss of a job, planning a wedding, buying a new house (hello, right now!), trying to “do it all”…..any of the big life things. The stress we don’t realize is stress on our bodies and minds: exercise, pollution and toxins, the alarm clock….

Looking back over my health declines and repairs and declines and repairs….and declines….

The ups and downs in my health have all been different. Some things have been the same, but until recently had not connect the dots yet. The one common thread….you guess it….the catalyst was STRESS.

When a double homozygous C677T gene mutation, that I didn’t know about for 39 years of my life, with 20 years on hormonal birth control pills, and various and repeated nutrient deficiencies collide with chronic (long-term) stress you get an unhealthy body that breaks down and feels like crapola!

The perfect storm of conditions have occurred several times over my lifetime and it is only now that I realize what was really going on. I am still trying to regain my health from my last and worst storm.

Allow me to provide you a real life, example – this is what I can remember off the top of my head.

The storm rolls up and the next thing you know you cannot function though your day without a nap, any amount of exercise crushes you for days on end, you are so tired but don’t get very good quality of sleep so you don’t ever feel rested, you wake up in the middle of the night with crazy heart palpitations, you’re irritable, anxious, extreme sensitivity to noise and bright lights, you can’t handle any amount of stress, dizziness for no good reason, can’t remember anything about anything, have no motivation to do anything but lay in bed and watch mindless TV, no sex drive, you’ve gained 25+ lbs of pure body fat and its hanging on for dear life, edema, dry brittle hair that is falling out like crazy, your skin is flaking off your face and scalp and body and no amount of oil or lotion seems to help, the appearance of wrinkles overnight, your pooper doesn’t work the way it should, you’re freezing your butt off and the only way you can get warm is by taking a hot shower and then using a heating pad in the bed, craving all starchy carbs and fat foods all the time with lots of salt, protein aversion, weird skin issues (rashes, flushing), hormone imbalances like crazy – particularly low progesterone to estrogen ratio and low testosterone. So…..that is a look at what I’ve been trying to manage for the past 2.5 years.

What I’ve Learned

I have learned that doing better with my food and lifestyle choices for a while until I feel better and then going back to doing or including things that contribute to the deterioration of my body and expecting my body to stay health doesn’t work. I’ve been on a health roller-coaster for most of my adult life; it is ridiculous and I have to get off this ride. Most of this is a physiological issue. Why would I keep doing the same thing over and over thinking “it won’t happen this time”? I’m a reasonably intelligent person.

Regardless, sometimes you just have to make a decision not to get back on the ride no matter how bad you may want to. This is not an easy task. It’s all about mindset and habits.

The human body is one system. It functions synergistically. The healthcare system treats our bodies as though all the various systems function in compartments and do not affect one another. Trust me when I say it doesn’t take a M.D. to figure out that if one system goes wonky it affects other systems and they can go wonky too. This fact can make it quite difficult to identify which system started the downstream of wonkiness. Yes, those are very technical terms! Anyway…..

I think that if I can regain and maintain my Gut Health, Liver Health, and Brain Health all/most the other systems of the body will stay healthy as well, because they are all connected.